~ Mindfulness and Mental Health ~
By John R. Ballew, M.S.
Copyright 2005 all rights reserved
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Some people go through life half asleep – as if they were on automatic pilot. They see themselves in the
same situations over and over again, with the same unwanted outcomes. They may think of themselves
as victims of circumstances beyond their control, or they think they’re having a run of bad luck, or that
they have a little gray cloud overhead that follows them around. Or perhaps they think that’s just the way
life is: something over which we have little control. They feel helpless and hopeless, overwhelmed with
worry.
Research has shown that these sorts of belief set us up for all sorts of unhappiness, anxiety and
depression. Even when bad things happen to us, we feel better if we find some way to assert control
over what happens and how we respond. We can develop practices and ways of interacting with the
world that promote mental health rather than despair and hopelessness.
Want to know a secret? We all talk to ourselves, all the time. It’s not a sign of craziness; it’s just the way
our minds work. You may be unaware of the conversation going on between your ears because it feels
like such a private experience. But trust me: we all do it. The real question is, when you’re alone with
yourself, what are you talking about?
Becoming aware of what’s going on within our consciousness is what people who meditate call
mindfulness. Mindfulness is a way of staying aware in the present moment. When we become more
aware of this internal experience, we gain much more freedom in how we respond to the world around
us, including situations that are unpleasant. Here’s a way to practice mindfulness that will help you
create more freedom in your life.
Take a deep breath. Take another one, this time a little deeper and letting the breath out a little more
slowly. Listen to the sound your breath makes as it enters and leaves your body. Watch yourself as one
breath follows the next. Let your mind begin to calm and clear.
Begin to notice what’s going on inside you as you stay focused on your breath. If you are like most
meditators, you’ll probably find yourself having distracting thoughts and feelings. Here’s where
mindfulness comes into play. When a thought comes up (e.g., "This is stupid" or "I’m no good at this"),
gently label it: "This is a thought." Don’t judge yourself for being distracted from your breath meditation;
just call yourself back to your breathing. And when a feeling comes up (anger, sadness, whatever), just
label it: "This is a feeling." And return to your breathing.
What you’re doing is shining a spotlight on the inner workings of your mind. You’re becoming more
aware of your thoughts and feelings, and that’s good. You’re also practicing having thoughts and
feelings without having them throw you off course.
This sort of meditation helps us to learn how our minds operate. With practice we can start to recognize
the conversation in our heads even when we’re not meditating. We learn that thoughts, feelings and
judgments aren’t reality; they are just things your mind is doing to keep itself busy. When we confuse
these things with reality they start to get us into trouble.
Next time we’ll look at using mindfulness in practical situations to take better care of ourselves.
John R. Ballew, M.S., is a licensed professional counselor in private practice in Atlanta. He specializes in issues related to coming out,
sexuality and relationships, spirituality and career. He can be reached via the web at www.bodymindsoul.org or at (404) 874-8536.
© Copyright 2005 John R. Ballew, M.S. All rights reserved.
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