You have met, physically. Maybe after a long on-line and phone communication. You are full of ideas, thoughts, concerns. Your submissive/slave is new to the lifestyle, so are you. You have made plans, described your desires, created patterns, discussed limits...but up till now it has all been long distance, detached from reality. Now what?
Here are a few simple ideas. First. KIS or KEEP IT SIMPLE. Prior to meeting for a consentual play session de-emphasize your submissives expectations, the more you build things up, the more stress you place on your own performance and the less directed focus you will be able to give to the submissive. Additionally you may not have a 'Dom Kit', (an assortment of toys, restraints, ropes etc).
You want to make this an interesting, exciting, fulfilling experience for both of you. Success is based not on how many toys you have, but on how and what you do and why. Your submissive/slave's primary need is ATTENTION. S/he desires an experience of directed control. (for the purposes of this example I will assume both partners are lifestyle virgins and that the arena of play is a small empty apartment of one of them...)
WHAT YOU WILL NEED: Training Collar (3 ring preference). Razor, shaving gel, small bowl, small plastic bag.
OPTIONAL: Lined cuff's for wrists and ankles. Two double ended latches (to attach cuffs to other rings) Find a comfortable place to sit. "Assume Spot" You should use this command to draw your submissive to a spot in front of you. Use an even tone of voice. "Formal Presentation Position" This command tells your submissive that s/he is to remove all clothing (have them undress in front of you if this pleases you), fold their clothing neatly and place to the side. They should be wearing your collar. If not you may desire to perform a collaring ceremony. At this point you may or may not have cuff's for them to wear on wrists and ankles. If you do they should put these on and assume a present position.
The classical position is facing toward the Dominant on their knees, the thighs opened as wide as possible to display their genitals, the chest (breasts) should be naked, and offered with a straight arched back, shoulders back, hands on the thighs, palms cupped upward, buttocks resting on the heels, chin up and eyes respectfully lowered.
The 'order' of presentation is Chest/breasts, Penis-scrotum/vagina, Anus and Mouth. The submissive says "_________(owner's name) slave or submissive (whichever), presents the Mistress's or Master's body for her or his inspection. Slave or submissive offers these 'your breasts, your vagina ....etc." You should nod for each body part so offered, you may inspect by touch if you wish. After each offering (your breasts), you say "What else do you offer?" The sub/slave will then proceed to the next (your vagina).
The purpose of this training and presentation is to demonstrate and expose offer the body, to reinforce the sub/slave as to their position or status, reminds the sub/slave that their body is owned by the Dominant and is for their usage, entertainment and pleasure. Gives the Dominant an opportunity to visually inspect the body for changes (weight), injury, damage and the need for maintenance.
Upon completion of this inspection you may note that your new sub/slave is not groomed to your satisfaction and decide that such grooming should commence immediately. You will tell your sub/slave "get a safety razor, gel, a plastic bag a small bowl of water and a towel." "GO!" The sub/slave should rise gracefully and hustle to bring the objects to you. Instruct the sub/slave to lay the plastic bag down and assemble before you the bowl, gel and razor. You then say "Down-back!" This command is used to tell the sub/slave to lie down on their back, (in general they will lie with legs together, hands along sides head to one side. You can then use the command "Open!" This command is used to tell the sub/slave to open their genitals to you (in any situation). At this point you may commence shaving your sub/slave or you may instruct them to groom in front of you. When they are cleaned to your desire they should wipe off and upon approval from you remove and dispose of the objects. They should then return and assume your display position of choice. (you can describe the position you desire prior to meeting so your submissive can practice before a mirror). "Display!"
At this point your sub/slave should be mentally 'in the zone'. S/he is not permitted open speech, argument, discussion or debate over what you tell him/her to do. All negotiation of limits occurs OUTSIDE the arena or prior to play. For purposes of simplicity you may desire to call your sub/slave simply "slave, pet, slut, worm" , and your sub/slave should call you simply "Mistress, Master, Ma'am, Sir" you adjust this to your desire. The removal of a name 'objectifies' them and the usage of an honorific title reinforces status between you.
The next thing is to intensify their space. This is most easily done by the removal of sight. Use a blindfold or scarf to simply and easily do this. (from this point I will offer a simple suggested scene - please feel free to elaborate or use it merely for an example) You may have noted (at the least) that your sub/slave was improperly groomed, they may also have presented themselves crooked etc. (minor breeches) These offer you an opportunity for in play discipline training. You tell them to "present for discipline" this should be a position to offer you their buttocks for spanking, this can be over your knee, across a chair, table or bed. Their hands should be overhead in surrender position, locked at throat if cuffed (away from area of play). You can then have the sub/slave 'offer' a listing of their errors, any not openly revealed and listed that require YOU to bring up warrant double discipline.
For each of these offenses you allocate a number of 'swats', at the end of each flurry your sub/slave should say "Thank you Mistress/Master" Since you cannot know the nature of the individual's skin at this point you spank only to a level of color (always try to avoid bruising - it limits further safe play). This discipline session can be punctuated with commentary from you, depending on if your sub/slave needs-desires humiliation etc. At the end of this session your sub/slave may be quite aroused. With male sub/slaves you may desire to cross train by stroking the penis intermitently during spanking - this trains the submissive to associate the pleasure of arousal with the application of pain. You then say "Open!" Again this command orders your submissive to open their genitals for your inspection. With a female you insert fingers upon which you might verbally comment on what a 'slut' she is. With a male you discuss the size of his offering. With a female you may desire for her to clean your fingers after making them messy in her sloppy vagina <grins>.