Scene etiquette is clear and unequivocal. Submissives in attendance or belonging to any Dominant are inviolate. It is NOT permissible for a collared submissive to be approached, spoken to or touched by any other person without the EXPLICIT permission of their Dominant Master or Mistress. Any unapproved contact is considered to be highly offensive and such conduct may be sufficient for the offender to be bodily removed from the facility.
Alcohol and drugs impair the mind and senses. Alcohol and drugs have NO place in scening as their usage may easily endanger the lives of submissives.
When a scene commences in your vicinity you should respectfully withdraw to a distance sufficient to allow the in-scene Dominant and submissive ample room to accomplish the scene without interference. You should NEVER move into an ongoing scene and touch or involve yourself in ANY way with the submissive being scened. You should also be alert to the usage of various tools, toys and equipment as their usage in tight space presents a real danger of inadvertent contact for those not paying attention. Whips, crops and canes and other toys can inflict devastating damage through accidental contact so protect yourself and your submissive by staying well clear in scene areas.
Every Dominant and submissive is expected to bring all tools and toys they expect to use or scene with to the facility with them. Many facilities provide unusual or interesting tables, racks, benches, slings and other apparati which may be used as part of a scene with the approval of the host or hostess. The guesting Dominant and submissive should be adequately prepared to provide additional materials to provide for cleanliness. This topic is covered in greater depth in the article titled the Toy Box. It is inappropriate to touch, handle or use any other persons equipment or toys without the specific approval of the owner of the equipment. If you notice upon returning home that you have come into the possession of unfamiliar toys or equipment DO call your host or hostess and notify them of the occurence and make suitable arrangements to return the objects to the facility or directly to their proper owner.
Sometimes public scenes can get very involved with multiple Dominants and submissives scening in the same area. This type of close contact or mingled scenes can be enormously exciting for those involved, at times this level of excitement may affect the personal judgment of those involved or even those looking on as spectators. It is important to remember that in-scene submissives are solely responsive to the direction of their personal Dominant and that any in-scene touching, scening or playing with any submissive NOT your own is considered not only rude but NON-CONSENSUAL and IS sufficient and just cause for the offender to be physically removed from the facility immediately.
The unattached submissives present are NOT fair game for any roaming Dominant. Every submissive should be treated with courtesy and respect with their implicit rights honored and respected. It is equally inappropriate for submissives to surround or present themselves en masse to available Dominants. A submissive should remember that watching a scene may be sufficient to propel them into subspace and impair their judgment. They may feel a rush or empathic responses to a given scene and may connect or in-scene bond to a Dominant during the execution of a scene. This Dominant may be completely unknown to them and therefore cannot know their hard or soft limits. It is generally inappropriate to 'pick-up' a submissive in such a condition USING their vulnerability for usage which may be only borderline consensual.
Remember that there are probably going to be people in attendance with all levels of experience and expertise. It is not proper for you to offer an opinion about another persons manner, dress or behavior, nor should you assume that if a submissive is naked that this is an invitation for you to touch them or in any way be disrespectful of them. Many Dominants laud themselves as experts with various toys or equipment however it is NEVER appropriate to give another Dominant in-scene direction unless that Dominant INVITES you into their scene specifically to do so.
Many private Dungeons do provide seperate bedroom facilities (usually for rent) for those whose scenes progress toward intimate sexual contact. The exchange of body fluids is generally strictly prohibited in-scene. Inquire in advance if you wish to make use of such space so that your host or hostess can make adequate arrangements for the area to be available when you require it.
Some private Dungeons are so small that only a few scenes may occur at any given time. If this is the case there is sometimes a list which allocates certain specific time frames for each scening couple or group. Ask your host or hostess if this is the evening plan and if so immediately check the schedule to note your own scene time and what limits that time frame may present for you.
When in doubt - be courteous. Good manners are ALWAYS appropriate especially in the event of unexpected situations where you are unsure of what to do or say.